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my brother is no longer with us so christmas has definitely been different this year around. it's weird how something like that can change a holiday so dramatically. i have a lot of memories of him and i around the christmas holiday. i know my parents do too.

i got my parents a nice new set of flatware. i haven't opened the gifts they gave me yet. i did not ask for anything because i don't feel like they need to buy anything for me. i hate accepting gifts from them seeing how i am living in their home free of charge. what else could i ask for?

i hope all of you have a very safe and happy christmas.
 

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I know what you mean about changes. It's unfortunate, but there are always changes, and what was true yesterday is never true today.

When my Great-Grandmother died our Christmas ritual changed a great deal (1984 or so) because that's one of the places we always went. Then, a couple of years later my Grandmother died (cancer) and it changed again. For a while we went to my Uncle's house each year, but then he retired and is doing the "Snow Birds" thing and lives out of his motor home.

From about 1990 until two years ago we went to my Favorite Great Aunt's house (Grandmother's sister) which was wonderful. Then she unfortunately died of Leukemia at the age of 75. Now we're all searching for that new Christmas ritual, but it'll never be the same. But it will still be good.

I hope everyone has a wonderful time these next couple of weeks, and you all got tons of accessories for your S3 for presents.

Cheers,

~Crash
 

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Hi Tekmoe
I bet you being at home with you parents is the best Christmas present they could wish for.
My eldest daughter has left home to live in London; we miss her greatly but she is living her own life now. (we'll see her on 28th).
MH

On 2006-12-25 12:06, tekmoe wrote:
my brother is no longer with us so christmas has definitely been different this year around. it's weird how something like that can change a holiday so dramatically. i have a lot of memories of him and i around the christmas holiday. i know my parents do too.

i got my parents a nice new set of flatware. i haven't opened the gifts they gave me yet. i did not ask for anything because i don't feel like they need to buy anything for me. i hate accepting gifts from them seeing how i am living in their home free of charge. what else could i ask for?

i hope all of you have a very safe and happy christmas.
 

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I am truly sorry about your Brother, I remember hearing of this awhile back. I am without my best friend now, he chose to force police into killing him last month. His inner demons were stronger than any of us knew, it amazes me that he could hide so much pain. Anyway, we spent many holidays together while we were both in the service (he was still active duty, 4 yrs from retirement) and he will be sorely missed by all today.


I hope you can remember the good times with your Brother and laugh about the bad ones. I'm sure he is with you and your family in spirit. Please try to have a Merry Christmas, even though it is hard.
 

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My wife is still dealing with the death of her father this past summer from alcoholism. People passing is a hard thing to sort out, but you take the good with the bad.

I'll be down there in just over a week. Hopefully you'll have a good list of fun places for us to ride and check out. I'll bring my paintball gun down too so we can go pwn people at the local paintball place.
 

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tekmoe, sorry for your loss, some good insight from your friends here. I know at my age I've lost some great friends and family members, but not a sibling, I can only imagine how that affected you and your parents. Don't hold your mourning inside, maybe a religious or family counselor would be available to help sort this for you all. A family volunteering effort in his memory can be better than the traditional gifts. An elderly person needing help with the fall yard clean up, veterans, food kitchen, etc. I can tell you, it is good for the sole and it doesn't have to be expensive nor complicated. Give your parents a big hug, none of us wish to outlive our children and you still have each other. God Bless.

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I know how you feel . I lost my mother this last June nothing has been the same. We just move on
 

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On 2006-12-25 12:17, crashmasterd wrote:
I know what you mean about changes. It's unfortunate, but there are always changes, and what was true yesterday is never true today.

When my Great-Grandmother died our Christmas ritual changed a great deal (1984 or so) because that's one of the places we always went. Then, a couple of years later my Grandmother died (cancer) and it changed again. For a while we went to my Uncle's house each year, but then he retired and is doing the "Snow Birds" thing and lives out of his motor home.

From about 1990 until two years ago we went to my Favorite Great Aunt's house (Grandmother's sister) which was wonderful. Then she unfortunately died of Leukemia at the age of 75. Now we're all searching for that new Christmas ritual, but it'll never be the same. But it will still be good.

I hope everyone has a wonderful time these next couple of weeks, and you all got tons of accessories for your S3 for presents.

Cheers,

~Crash
Crash, to me what your message above leads to is the following: In short order, it will fall upon our generation, and maybe us specifically, to be that place that others want to come to. When those we love, that have preceeded us, and who have given their homes to us for our life-long memories go, it hurts. But it's also a reminder that our opportunity to step up and be that special place to our extended families is now. Its pretty heavy to think that your home and the smiles, laughs, great smells and all will live on in the memories of the kids, grand kids, nephews and nieces for another 70 or 80 years or more. When each of us get to the end we're all going to turn around and take a long look back down that old road, and we're gonna be thankful for the memories of places we spent holidays and special times with family and friends.

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sorry to hear tek',

a loss like this is never easy to deal with and at times impossible to feel positive when someone you love hasn't been given what seems to be "a fair chance".

i know it'll be trite for me to state this, but try to revere this time of year and your brother as a celebration of memory and good times. it's what he would no doubt want this time to be shared with happiness & you and the family being together right now.

take care man, and your obviously a great man. your bro would be stand-up proud.
-b

[ This message was edited by: zooplancton on 2006-12-25 21:10 ]
 

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My dad is down in the pits this year. Both he and his father (my grandpa) are newly single this year. My grandpa is having his first single christmas in over 68 years. In July my stepmother and grandma passed away in the same weekend leaving my dad shellshocked. The reason i moved across the country was to be with him in his time of need. There will always be people to turn to in the hardest times and new traditions will be made with these people.
 

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Anything we could possibly say Tek would not be enough. Dont be afraid to speak of him, he is part of you. Honor his memory with the way you live your life. Lars.
 
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