Three weeks on... and the problem has been solved.
I dont understand the why, but the heater wire was intermittantly going to ground between the grip and the handlebar on the throttle side. All I had to do was take the throttle grip off, re insulate the wire, and hey presto. No more problems.
I dont understand why the throttle side wouldnt blow the fuse on its own, I can only assume that it was the infrequent earthing through engine vibration coupled with the extra 1.5amp of the other grip that kept blowing the fuse. The vibration was not enough on its own. I dont know. But its fixed. So if anyone has similar symptoms with the OEM heated grips. I hope this works for you.
I feel so smug on cold mornings now

Cheers
Matt