pinballjon,
the manual will comprehensively explain how to make the adjsutments. I ride with mine set on the recommended settings front and rear for carrying a pillion.
For me this is about right, I weigh 97 kilograms. and I usually ride in a sporty manner.
If you do not use settings from the manual be sure you note in a book exactly what you have done and record the response after riding
Keep adjusting till you get it right.
Soft forks, search previous threads very well covered here in earlier posts.
cheers,
davem