LEDGERJIM,
Yes I find the stock settings on my '04 S3 quite firm.....I stand 5'9" and weigh 140lbs. I was thinking of adjusting it myself but got weary of screwing things up after some posts from our fellow rat forum members. (You could probably find the threads by doing a search).
Anyways, if you do find a solution, let me know cause unless I can come up with a solution that is doable, I am going to take it to the dealer. I would rather do it myself though...
Thanks
Ken