Triumphrat

Prairie Rat · 11-19-2009, 02:53 AM

I used think I was an honorable man , and in many ways I still believe I am. However, I have been taking stock lately and find that I may not be as honorable a man as I once thought. There are moments, mistakes ,decisions, actions that I have made in my past that I would consider less than honorable or worse yet dishonorable . In a way its shaken me a bit and it has blurred the lines between what is honorable and what is not and has made me question many things.
At this point it seems I have witnessed more dishonorable moments than honorable but I wonder if this is because the dishonorable moments some how stick with a person while the honorable moments fade too fast because not enough respect is given to them ?

What does honor mean to you? Is there a difference in what honor is among generations? Are you no longer an honorable man if you have done less than honorable things in your past?
Wondering your thoughts ?

saphena · 11-19-2009, 02:59 AM

The short answer is "yes".

Being an honourable person is about trying to be honourable. We're all human and therefore susceptible to any number of lapses and failings.

No doubt there will have been times (when looking back) when you either weren't trying or merely didn't succeed - don't worry about them, just move on.

richb · 11-19-2009, 03:42 AM

A mark of an honourable person is that they remember and rue their failings more than crow their successes.

That's what I keep telling myself anyway.

Bonnie06Tangerine · 11-19-2009, 04:20 AM

Truth, honesty, integrity, serving to a greater good that could mean self-sacrifice is needed of me at times to achieve this. Raising my son in a way that I am there for him both emotionally and physically to include incorporating these values into him as well. I could go on more but this is what is essential to me for being honorable. I do believe that people, myself included, trip along the way and can have trouble. With that said, I do believe that people have the power to pick themselves up and redeem the errors they may have encountered. It is in this process that we actually better ourselves through the process. I don't necessarily believe in three strikes you are out in this area. You fall down three times and you get yourself back up and press on. If it is the person on your side that has fallen then you pause to lean down and help that person up. It is never over; you keep pressing and never give up.

gn2 · 11-19-2009, 05:33 AM

Here's what honor means to me:

davids · 11-19-2009, 05:35 AM

Welcome to the human race! We're all fallible, have moments of weakness, and are flawed - it's all part of the human condition - otherwise we'd all be more than human.

Don't be too hard on yourself prairie rat it sounds as if you have a conscience & want to do the right thing. Honour is different things to different people it can cover morality, duty, kindness, self sacrifice and a plethora of things, what matters is that you try to be true to your own belief system.

In my opinion (for what it's worth) what matters (amongst other things) is putting right what you've done wrong where you can, making a contribution as best we can, trying not to make the same mistakes twice, trying to improve ourselves whilst having tolerance and forgiveness of the failings in ourselves as well as others. Change what you can - accept what you can't.

Take it steady.....life's for living don't waste it regretting what you can't change - that can be destructive - just learn from it and that's never comfortable or easy........I'm sure we've all felt as you feel at the moment at some time or another, as we all tend to be our own severest critics.

Chin up mate!

welshrob · 11-19-2009, 06:05 AM

The past is the past, mate. You can`t touch it, feel it or be in it. It only exists in our minds and the only thing we can take from it is knowledge and lessons in life. Its sole purpose is to teach us how to live the rest of our life.

If you really want to be an honorable man, today is a great place to start. All the honor you could ever want, is in your future.

All the best, friend. It will all be fine.

MrsNickwiz · 11-19-2009, 06:11 AM

Sounds like you're thinking too much about things, I just wouldn't worry about it.

jonkster · 11-19-2009, 06:29 AM

I reckon there is much honour in knowing you have things you are ashamed of and trying to change.

Much more honourable than being perfect (seriously - what is honourable about being perfect?) or in denial or just giving up.

Voldemort88 · 11-19-2009, 06:31 AM

The Hind-Sight is a wonderful machine, but it cannot change the past, only the future.