Triumphrat

Nickwiz · 10-14-2009, 10:11 PM

I've noticed these last few years that I get increasingly angry, despairing, frustrated by the general daftness of the world around me. I find myself engaged in ranting angry conversations with other mates a similar age to me. Where we used to laugh and joke about stuff we now sit and rail against the system. I'm sure I used to have a sunnier devil may care attitude to life. But lately I've been getting all narked about stuff I can't really do anything about. Am I justgoing through the normal mid life thing or getting to be a grumpy old git or should I go see the shrink!

dogtired · 10-14-2009, 10:52 PM

Nick, all is well, you are exhibiting all the healthy signs of Old Fart's Disease, I got it too. Nothing to worry about.

mglemans86 · 10-14-2009, 11:03 PM

I'm with you Nick. The kids are grown and mostly launched and now I can focus on what effects "MY" future, and that of the kids. and I don't kike what I'm seeing from the people who are thying to control it. Read my signature.

deluxe · 10-14-2009, 11:20 PM

Get your blood pressure checked and a blood test. I was exactly like what you describe and when I finally had my pressure and blood checked, not only was it very high, I was in end stage renal failure.

Not to say you have high blood pressure. Just saying.

If I checked mine when I started to be cranky and worrying about everything that had nothing to do with me, I could have saved myself a year of dialysis and subsequently a kidney transplant.

Skull Crusher · 10-15-2009, 12:00 AM

To be honest Nick, welcome to old age. Things change so does your body and your mind. Chemicals that once allowed you to deal with stress are diminishing. Even one's that give you that drive are too. We all get this way as we grow older some worse then others. So we look back and try to rengage our minds and concentrate harder but it does no good, in fact it stress us out even more.

Another thing is we see the world in a perspective which we believe should change for the better, when it doesn't after so many years of watching and waiting we become impatient as we get older. The best advice I can give, is "don't sweat the small stuff, it's all small stuff!" Maybe going to the shrink might give you some new avenues to explore or a different take on life in general. Dispair really, or just depressed? Dispair is a desperate state of mind. Depressed is not so bad, we all get depressed. What would you have to dispair over.

1. You have a beautiful wife who loves you and enjoys your company. You have allot in common and I would say that you love her also, deeper than you think.

2. She shares in your triumphs

and your grief!

3. You sound as if you feel good about your work and have a sound job.

4. You obviously are not in a financial delima or in a bad way.

5. You are healthy.

6. You have interests which obviously make you happy.

7. Your not threatened or fearful of anything substantial.

8. You have friends who you enjoy!

9. Your life is stable.

10. I would imagine you have a good retirement awaiting and you have a dwelling.

My question to you is what are you looking for? What are you missing? Are you content?

Think about what I've said and I believe that after you look at what you really have, your quite wealthy. Maybe you just need to sit back and let the world be what the world is going to be. Nick, I thought I was going to make a big difference in the world by being a soldier and saving lives. Being risky and taking extreme risks. I finally realized I didn't know anything, really. I was pushing so hard and so fast my life was litterally flying past. Then a little bulb went off in my head. I'd had everything in my life that I ever wanted or dreamed about and it didn't make any difference. What did make a difference for me was the things I had overlooked. Love with a woman who loves me. A home to share our love in. Food on the table every night. A bed to sleep in beside my lovely wife. My two children, even my two Cocker Spaniels. I'm still healthy, alert and mindful of who I am and I still haven't decided what I really want to be. My to do list is ever increasing because as I grow older I know I'll never get it done, so big deal.

I have lost one's I've loved but I remember only the love shared. Nothing else really matters. I will love until the day I die, and it will probably be all I'll be able to take from this world.

So, look at what you really have and eliminate what you don't really need. Smile more each day! Lend a hand to a stranger when you can. Slow down and make sure you laugh and chuckle more. Practice being at peace with yourself. That's what counts.

Cheers
Jeff

steventhechef · 10-15-2009, 12:01 AM

I figured a while ago that you can't change the big stuff and you shouldn't sweat the small stuff. It won't change anything.

Ride your bike and enjoy the bits that you can.

iceman · 10-15-2009, 01:25 AM

..... its hereditary Nick.

In my family my Grandad had it, my Dad got it, and I guess I might be next

I'm with Steven though - appreciate the good things and dont sweat the rest - no one listens anyway

Grant

steventhechef · 10-15-2009, 01:38 AM

Grant - they listen but they don't care.

Catenaccio · 10-15-2009, 01:47 AM

Retirement helps. Trust me.

dogtired · 10-15-2009, 02:14 AM

One thing they don't tell you about getting a tad older is prostate checks.

I got off light on my last one, the doctor was a rather short woman. I cant remember the exact words she used but the conversation went along the lines of: -
"While I got my daks off are you going to check my prostrate?"
*she looked at me with an expression that is hard to describe*
"You gotta be joking, have a look at it, (she held up her right hand) you've got a fat arse and I got short fingers, how about we send you off to get the blood test instead?"

WINNAH!